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I spent 10+ years mastering a language I barely use anymore.
I fell in love with language in Grade 4, when French was introduced in Ontario in the 90s. I didn’t grow up speaking another language at home, so this felt like a door opening. I took French all through elementary school, all through high school, won regional speech competitions, completed a full French degree, and even did an immersion program in Quebec City where I dreamed in French.
Then life shifted. I graduated, started modelling, travelled constantly, and worked in environments where English dominated. Even when I worked in Montreal, I didn’t need French as much as I once did. Slowly, despite Radio-Canada, French music, films, and social media, my fluency faded.
Behind the scenes: Sometimes I look at that French degree and think, “What was the point?” I studied for YEARS. And now something I rarely use day to day. Losing fluency felt like losing a part of myself.
The twist? Learning French was never just about speaking it. It trained my brain. It shaped how I write, how I listen, how I think. Studying grammar in another language made me more intentional with English. Writing essays and speaking publicly in French built discipline, confidence, and curiosity... skills I use constantly in marketing, storytelling, and interviewing.
What I labelled as a failure actually gave me:
• Stronger writing and communication skills
• A deeper understanding of culture and nuance
• Discipline and cognitive flexibility
• Confidence in learning complex things
• A lifelong love of language and learning
I don't need to speak French every day for it to matter.
If there's a skill you think you lost...
It might still be shaping you in ways you just haven’t named yet.